Free Books…and…THE PLAN

Okay, so I’ve had a couple of days to think about that TED talk that Amanda Palmer gave and I’ve made a decision.

I’m going with the crowd-sourcing, pay what you want, take it for free if you like concept.

On each of my main websites (The Deadly Nightshade, The Homeschool Advocate and here) I’ve posted two new additions – a Paypal Donate button on the right hand side and a Download Christine’s Books for FREE page. Go and read up on all the details at the link.

As for THE PLAN – it is as follows…

I have one more nonfiction book I began working on back in 2009/2010 timeframe. Quit Your Job, Change Your Life: 40 Steps Toward a More Fulfilling Life  is about 4/5 of the way completed. So I’m going to finish it up, submit it to Lulu for those who want a paperback version, and make it available for download like the rest of the books on my website.

After that I’m focusing on finishing Book Two of War’s End and completing that series. I’m hoping to have it up by next summer at the very latest.

I may intersperse that with some short stories, who knows.

In any case, here is Chapter One of Quit Your Job, Change Your Life – just to whet your appetite and all that…


“I went into the woods to live deliberately. To front the essential facts of life and see if I could not learn what they had to teach. And not when I came to die discover I had never lived.” – Henry David Thoreau

“I am only one, but I still am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” – Edward Everett Hale

Each day we are faced with decisions, whether we realize it or not. Do we take the easy road, the one that is familiar and expected? Or do we take to the woods, create our own trail, and slog our way through the mud to a destiny of our own making?

In 2004 I started an online blog titled “What the Hell Am I Doing Here?!” I was sitting in a gray cubicle staring at the walls, bored to tears as I shuffled paperwork and tried to look busy. My job was easy, way too easy, and it paid me more money than I had ever earned before.

In terms of the ‘easy road’ it would have been far simpler to stay there. In many ways it was seductive – left to my own devices for hours on end I did little work and a great deal of writing, web surfing, and even my fair share of soul-searching. If money and security were all that mattered I would probably still be there.

I had lost my way. For years I had operated under the belief that if I worked hard enough, earned the right certifications and climbed (albeit slowly) the corporate ladder that all things would work out. I would find the perfect job, make a respectable amount of money, and have the things in life I was told were important. When life didn’t turn out quite as I had expected, I found myself disillusioned and depressed. I found myself far more cynical and selfish than I was comfortable with. I began to examine my life and find it wanting.

The soul-searching hit high overdrive after my father pointed me towards a writer by the name of Claire Wolfe. I read her essay “Movin’ To Hardyville” in which she wrote:

“You want to live in Hardyville? I’ll tell you the secret, then, that Hardyville is as real as it is imaginary…

How do you get there? If you can’t find Lonelyheart Pass, you can start in the direction of Hardyville by thinking about the way you’re living now. Are you racing like a little maze-rat, just to keep yourself in fancy toys? … Are you living vicariously, via television? Do you choose to spend your days in a little gray cube? Is your mind in a little gray cube? … Have you put your kids in day care, soccer and gymnastics, more than in your life? Do you hate your life, but somehow never manage to take real steps to fix it? Are you using people — or being used by them — instead of having honest relationships? When it comes right down to it, do you choose convenience over independence? Do you choose the status quo over the uncertainties of happiness? Do your deeds fail to match your words, your hopes and your ideals?

Then you’re not on the road to Hardyville. If you want to be on the road to Hardyville, then turn around.”

There are times in your life when you experience something that speaks to you on the deepest level of your consciousness. It moves you, challenges you and then tugs at your sleeve insistently in the days and weeks that follow. It is that insistent voice that demands that you become more than you currently are.

When I read those words my life was irrevocably changed – they set into motion feelings I could no longer deny – that my life was not where it should be –it wasn’t fulfilling or complete and I was not the person I wanted to be.

I read the questions Claire’s essay had posed and found myself answering “yes” far too often for my comfort. I began to dream very vivid dreams at night. I will not bore you with the details of those dreams; suffice it to say that I came to believe they were an unconscious expression of my longing for change.

I daydreamed as well. I dreamed of a life far different from the one I currently had – one that had purpose, one that was on my terms and under my direction. I was tired of working in offices shuffling mounds of paperwork back and forth and I was even more fed up with the corporate BS and cliques of gossiping co-workers I saw each day.

When my supervisor left for another department she said to me in parting, “Christine, you have got to learn to just not say anything.” It was well-intentioned advice, thoughtful even, and if I had been realistic I would have taken it. But realism meant giving up, accepting my fate, and I wasn’t ready to do that. For me, that would have been akin to dying.

I began to examine how I currently lived and then decided how I wanted to live. I also grew to realize how precious each of the remaining years of my life had become to me – I didn’t want to waste them on being unhappy anymore.

I was ready to stop and to turn around and start heading back down that long road towards Hardyville. And slowly, agonizingly slow at times, my life began to change.

I pulled my daughter out of the public school that she was so miserable in and began to homeschool her. She was in high school by this time and even though I was at work I could still call her and send her assignments via email. A few hiccups along the way and we settled into a good routine.

I brainstormed constantly about ways to make money while doing things that interested me. I also researched different career paths and evaluated the pros and cons of each one. I signed up for writing classes through my local community education department and pulled out several crafts projects I had begun and then abandoned over the years.

I taught myself how to re-upholster furniture, researched my different options in opening up an eBay business, and wrote constantly in online blogs and my journals.

It was around this time that my teenage daughter commented, “Mom, every time I think about how I don’t have enough time to do my writing, the housework, and find a job…I see how busy you are. It makes me feel like I’m not doing anything.” I was taken by surprise by her comment, but I was enjoying myself and really getting a kick out of all the different things I was learning and achieving.

I said to her, “Honey, when you find something that gets you interested and excited, I hope you will move heaven and earth to make it happen because life is way too short to not reach for your dreams.”

After nearly two years of this brainstorming, blogging, and skill-building I found myself one morning in the company conference room – stuck in another meeting that I found tedious and pointless. As if all of the walls had closed in at once, I finally realized I couldn’t take it one minute longer. I stood up in front of everyone and ignoring their stares I quit my job and walked out of the room.

I didn’t make it out of the office before I panicked. What had I done? Could I take it back? That day and the week that followed were difficult. I wasn’t ready, I didn’t have a game plan in place, and I was terrified. What in the world was I going to do?

My therapist told me that I was being very self-destructive. I heard him out, even went to a few more sessions before I fired him. He might have had a point (well of course he did – it was right on the top of his head!), but in the years that have followed I have come to believe that quitting that comfortable job with its dull gray cubicle walls and far duller days within was the best thing I ever did for myself.

I look back now and prefer to call it self-transformative instead of self-destructive. Transformation can appear destructive at times. Just think of the conversion from caterpillar to butterfly, what is left of the creature that was when the butterfly emerges from the chrysalis? The old must die to give way to the new.

That was the day that my life really began – and all the questions and stress and penniless months that followed were worth every moment of the life that I lead now – nearly eight years later.

I am not suggesting that you quit your job – at least not yet anyway! What I am suggesting is that you need to grab a notebook full of empty pages, find a quiet place and:

  • Start thinking about the life you are leading and how different it is from where you really want to be
  • Brainstorm – what makes you happy? What gets you up in the morning?
  • Read this book and begin to implement the suggestions and exercises in it
  • Set the wheels in motion; take small steps, which grow bigger with each week or month that passes.

Eventually your feet will stand you up and walk you out of that cubicle (or into one) and into a different world – one of your choosing.

Changing your life is not just about a quitting your job, changing to a different career or starting your own business – although a good deal of this book may seem to focus on that. Changing your life is about self-examination and introspection. It is about finding the answers to what makes you happy and then repositioning your life and your focus to pursue that goal with intent.

Make the conscious choice to change your life and use some or all of the techniques and exercises suggested in this book to re-shape it into one that is worth living.

Life is far too short to be lost or unhappy –don’t you think it’s time for a change?!



So a completely weird thing happened to me – no matter what I tried, I couldn’t access the Admin panel on this website for about four months. When it occurred, I was in the throes of gearing up to move, moving, and running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to prep my new home for an Open House in late March.

Every time I tried accessing the Admin section in order to post something new, it gave me a “php header line 881” error message and I just threw my hands up and thought, Later, I will deal with this later.

Then last night, after posting an update on The Deadly Nightshade that really should have gone here (but that I thought I couldn’t access) I checked the site and was dumbfounded, no error message.

What the heck?

In any case, I’m back and feeling jazzed and ready to take on the world. So much so that I woke up at 3 a.m. this morning and try as I might I could NOT go back to sleep.

So what has me so excited? Three things really…

  1. This website is miraculously back up – hooray!
  2. I watched a very inspirational TED talk by Amanda Palmer last night that had me grinning and nodding – her crowdsourcing concept of having people pay what they want for her music is the way I want to handle my writing from now on.
  3. Today it will be in the low 60s and by this weekend it will be in the 70s. I have scheduled a delivery of three cubic yards of dirt to be delivered this morning and Katie from Lincoln University Extension is visiting this afternoon to discuss/mentor me on our planting and garden planning. I will be able to dig into dirt, plant seeds in the next few weeks and begin planning our new urban farm. Spring has finally arrived!

It’s now 5 am. Time to take the dogs out, eat some breakfast, fix a lunch for my wonderful and loving husband, and get to work on the house and yard. I plan to put all three of my completed books up for free download soon. Details to follow, stay tuned!